Monthly Archives: January 2009

On Humility

Humility is an amazing quality. Since ancient times, it’s been a quality that has attracted our attention. In fact, most of the world’s religions value humility above all virtues. Confucius once said humility “is a solid foundation of all virtues.” Living a life of humility himself, Jesus said “the meek would one day inherit the earth.” As valued as this quality is, why then does humility seem so unattainable?

By definition, humility embodies modest and unpretentious behavior. Requiring an absence of pride, it means not overestimating your position in society. It’s no wonder humility seems so difficult for most of us to acquire in today’s world. All one has to do is turn on the news, open a newspaper, or connect to the Internet to realize there are many brilliant thinkers among successful corporations who take great pride in their gifts and talents. What many do not realize though is that St. Therese de Lisieux was not only very gifted, but humble too as shown in her writings and witnessed by her contemporaries. A very powerful combination! In her autobiography, “Story of a Soul”, she writes:

“I can say with truth that by God’s grace I am no more attached to the gifts of the intellect than to material things. If it happens that a thought of mine should please my Sisters, I find it quite easy to let them regard it as their own. My thoughts belong to the Holy Ghost. They are not mine. St. Paul assures us that without the Spirit of Love, we cannot call God our Father. And besides, though far from depreciating those beautiful thoughts which bring us nearer to God, I have long been of opinion that we must be careful not to overestimate their worth. The highest inspirations are of no value without good works. It is true that others may derive much profit there from, if they are duly grateful to our Lord for allowing them to share in the abundance of one of His privileged souls; but should this privileged soul take pride in spiritual wealth, and imitate the Pharisee, she becomes like a hostess dying of starvation at a well-spread table, while her guests enjoy the richest fare, and perhaps case envious glances at the possessor of so many treasures.”

While not easy, humility can be habit-forming. Just ask Elizabeth Harrell. In her article, “Humility: How Can You Have It?” on, Ms. Harrell says it starts with small steps; specifically, making certain behaviors a routine. She suggests the following:

1. It’s in What You Say. When speaking with other people, address their lives and thoughts before your own.
2. It’s in How You Treat Others. Treat each person as someone of value regardless of their position in society, profession, age, or economic status.
3. It’s in How You Treat Yourself. Humility grows when you don’t give into your own whims. Respecting yourself involves refraining from unhealthy and superficial behavior.
4. It’s in How You Perceive Things. Humility requires a change in mindset as our perceptions are based on what we think. People who practice humility understand the value of not relying on previously-developed attitudes.
5. It’s in How You Live Your Life. Living a life with a sincere spirit of humility can result in many positive rewards, including:Humble people often handle challenging situations with a greater sense of peace as they respond rather than react to life’s challenges.

When you serve others, you focus less on your own problems and weaknesses.  Humility is a great networking tool. As you demonstrate humility, you will attract others. They will be more comfortable around you and seek your wisdom. Wisdom is often equated with humility. Humble people are often seen as wiser because they listen well and think before they speak, first considering the value of their words. Humility also leads others to see you as a trustworthy, realizing your main goals are not self-motivated. A combination of leadership and humility creates loyalty. Humble leaders understand they are nothing without those working with them. Rather than striving to make themselves look successful, they revel in the success of others.

6. It’s in Whether You See the Roadblocks Ahead. When striving towards humility, one should also be aware of the roadblocks. Specifically, some behaviors and personal qualities impede a person’s ability to be humble. Once the following behaviors and traits are eliminated, humility has room to grow.

  • Pride. Pride prevents a person from growing in a spirit of humility. It focuses on self rather than others.
  • Insecurity. Insecurity creates an unhealthy self-centeredness. When lacking self-confidence, too much time is spend examining one self rather than others.
  • Over-confidence. Derived from the same self-centeredness as insecurity, over-confidence is also unhealthy as this quality leads a person in the opposite direction.
  • Selfishness. Humility will always be a distant dream as long as you strive to meet your own needs and desires before the concerns of others.

Humility is found in wisdom and true wisdom is found in listening to and serving others. It requires you to surrender your pride and to change in mindset away from self-centeredness. In a world where self-indulgence and material wealth are encouraged, acquiring humility is often challenging. Yet, the rewards outweigh the sacrifices. You not only feel a great sense of peace, but you also experience new found wisdom and healthier relationships too!

Remember … touch a life today “The Little Way” by following the lead and need of others.  Also, if you ever thought to yourself, “I wish my customers, knew…”, then be sure to visit White Light Communications at

~ Theresa

Leading with a Light and Gentle Touch

Today on, there was a wonderful article on leadership. In his article, “Leading with a Light and Gentle Touch,” Eric Garner states that at the heart of facilitation and people management is to “get people to do great things” while at the same time allowing “things to happen; not by doing a lot, but by doing as little as possible.” More specifically, getting out of the way so people have space to grow. By not thinking for them, people start to think for themselves and by not offering solutions, people come up with their own solutions. With this in mind, Mr. Garner offers six leadership tips:

1. Gentle Leadership. Groups turn to a leader at critical moments. So, rather than wrestling control from the group, use gentle leadership at critical times to help people lead themselves. Tao Te Ching calls this “leading by following”; specifically saying, “In order to master people one must speak as their servant; in order to lead people one must follow them.”

2. Gentle Interventions. Gentle leadership requires gentle interventions such as a gentle frown, a gentle look, a gentle smile, a gentle touch, a gentle nudge, a few gentle words, or by gentle persuasion.

3. 3D Leaders. Much like a mountain guide, a 3-D leader knows when to tell the group to “Follow me!”; when to mix in with them to gain their confidence; and when to let everyone climb a cliff first so s/he can check their progress and safety from below.

4. Charisma. Influence others simply by your presence and attentiveness.

5. Class. A gentle leader does not need to prove himself; rather, he intervenes as a last resort using his skills in an understated way. More specifically, Louis Tice says, “The object is to be so strong, so powerful, that you can afford to be gentle. As change occurs, as your growth happens from inside, you will become more powerful, more confident. So you can become gentle, at ease and real. ”

6. The Leader as Catalyst. A catalyst is a substance that causes change in other substances merely by its presence. The group facilitator acts as catalyst when s/he shows the group genuine understanding; offers recognition; helps others make sense of their problems; and encourages them to be all they can be.

Remember … touch a life today “The Little Way” by following the lead and need of others.  Also, if you ever thought to yourself, “I wish my customers, knew…”, then be sure to visit White Light Communications at

~ Theresa

Indian Ten Commandments

The Indian Ten Commandments (

1. Treat the Earth and all that dwell therein with respect
2. Remain close to the Great Spirit
3. Show great respect for your fellow beings
4. Work together for the benefit of all Mankind
5. Give assistance and kindness wherever needed
6. Do what you know to be right
7. Look after the well-being of Mind and Body
8. Dedicate a share of your efforts to the greater Good
9. Be truthful and honest at all times
10. Take full responsibility for your actions

Remember … touch a life today “The Little Way” by following the lead and need of others. Also, if you ever thought to yourself, “I wish my customers, knew…”, then be sure to visit White Light Communications at

~ Theresa

9 Ways to Find Peace of Mind

Uncertainly has dramatically increased in the last decade. With uncertainty comes worry. We worry about everything from war and terrorism to losing our jobs and the economy; not to mention the dangers confronting our children. Given the state of the world, this worry is understandable. With the right tools, however, we can rise above any challenge life hands us and live a rewarding life amidst turmoil. In her newest book, Embracing Uncertainty, Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. says we all can find a sense of peace and purpose. She suggests nine ways in which to view the world in a more life-affirming and powerful way; they are:
1. Unset your heart. Put another way, let go of the picture of how you want things to be. Do not try to control those things that you have no control over.
2. Create a wondering life rather than a hoping life. During challenging moments in our life, substitute “I wonder” with “I hope” to keep our hopes alive. It also allows us to learn and grow from whatever happens.
3. Choose the path of trust. No matter what happens in your life, trust provides the inner strength to create something good from everything.
4.Increase your inner sense of power by cutting off negativity. Keep telling yourself over and over again, “Whatever happens in my life, I’ll handle it!”
5.Collect heroes as role models. As you collect heroes, you realize you can learn and grow from your own experiences.
6.Focus on learning. Learn and find strength from anything that happens to you.
7.Embrace the thought, “It’s all happening perfectly”. Let go of perfection and be happy with “what is.”
8.Focus on blessings. It may sound silly, but we need to train ourselves to notice all the beauty that is in our lives. By focusing on blessings, we diffuse our fears about the future.
9. Get Involved. Ask yourself, “What am I called to do?” Make a list of what comes to mind and begin taking action.

Over time you will discover that as you make these suggestions part of your daily life, you will feel a whole new sense of purpose. What’s more, you will feel a power emerge from within and look forward to the future with a positive attitude; a future full of possibilities, not only for yourself, but also for your world.

Remember … touch a life today “The Little Way” by following the lead and need of others. Also, if you ever thought to yourself, “I wish my customers, knew…”, then be sure to visit White Light Communications at

~ Theresa

A New Beginning

I feel hope, a chance for a new beginning today as I watched Barack Hussein Obama’s inauguration. Stepping into history as our nation’s first black president, he addressed an exuberant crowd of more than a million people stretching from what seemed to be “from sea to shining sea” …from the inaugural platform at the U.S. Capitol to the Lincoln Memorial in the distance.

Obama, the son of a white, Kansas-born mother and a black, Kenya-born father, is seen as an enormously confident man with electrifying oratorical skills unmatched since JFK. The public’s hopes for Obama are extremely high as our nation is experiencing the worst economic crisis since the Great Depression. During his inaugural address, he shared many poignant moments, leaving many of us teary-eyed (myself included) and most, if not all of us, empowered:

He started by asking us as a nation to come together and choose “hope over fear, unity of purpose over conflict and discord”. He continued by saying:

“Our time of standing pat, of protecting narrow interests and putting off unpleasant decisions – that time has surely passed…Starting today, we must pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and begin the work of remaking America…Our challenges may be new. The instruments with which we meet them may be new. But those values upon which our success depends – hard work and honesty, courage and fair play, tolerance and curiosity, loyalty and patriotism – these things are old. These things are true. They have been the quiet force of progress throughout our history. What is demanded then is a return to these truths. What is required of us now is a new era of responsibility – a recognition, on the part of every American, that we have duties to ourselves, our nation, and the world, duties that we do not grudgingly accept but rather seize gladly, firm in the knowledge that there is nothing so satisfying to the spirit, so defining of our character, than giving our all to a difficult task…

Our patchwork heritage is a strength, not a weakness. We are a nation of Christians and Muslims, Jews and Hindus – and non-believers. We are shaped by every language and culture, drawn from every end of this Earth; and because we have tasted the bitter swill of civil war and segregation, and emerged from that dark chapter stronger and more united, we cannot help but believe that the old hatreds shall someday pass; that the lines of tribe shall soon dissolve; that as the world grows smaller, our common humanity shall reveal itself; and that America must play its role in ushering in a new era of peace…

To the Muslim world, we seek a new way forward, based on mutual interest and mutual respect. To those leaders around the globe who seek to sow conflict, or blame their society’s ills on the West – know that your people will judge you on what you can build, not what you destroy. To those who cling to power through corruption and deceit and the silencing of dissent, know that you are on the wrong side of history; but that we will extend a hand if you are willing to unclench your fist. To the people of poor nations, we pledge to work alongside you to make your farms flourish and let clean waters flow; to nourish starved bodies and feed hungry minds. And to those nations like ours that enjoy relative plenty, we say we can no longer afford indifference to suffering outside our borders; nor can we consume the world’s resources without regard to effect. For the world has changed, and we must change with it.

This is the price and the promise of citizenship.This is the source of our confidence – the knowledge that God calls on us to shape an uncertain destiny.This is the meaning of our liberty and our creed – why men and women and children of every race and every faith can join in celebration across this magnificent mall, and why a man whose father less than sixty years ago might not have been served at a local restaurant can now stand before you to take a most sacred oath.”

President Barack Obama, January 20, 2009

So let’s pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and remake America. It starts by making a real difference in the lives of every individual placed in our life. It starts by leading “The Little Way”… doing many little deeds with great love.
Remember … touch a life today “The Little Way” by following the lead and need of others. Also, if you ever thought to yourself, “I wish my customers, knew…”, then be sure to visit White Light Communications at

~ Theresa

A Dream Come True

My friends… Today is a historic day; a day beautifully timed so that we not only celebrate the dreams of one man, but get to see and feel that dream realized through the accomplishments of another man. It is no coincidence that on the eve marking the inauguration of our first African American president, Barack Obama, we also commemorate Martin Luther King Day… a day celebrating the accomplishments of a remarkable man who dared to dream of a future where all Americans would co-exist as equals regardless of race.

In delivering his now famous, “I have a Dream” speech on August 28, 1963 from the steps of the Lincoln Memorial during the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom, Mr. King defined the American Civil Rights Movement. In this speech, Mr. King spoke of a dream that one day this nation would “rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: ‘We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal … that one day we would live in a nation where our children would not be judged by the color of their skin, but rather by the content of their character… that one day the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners would sit down together and share a meal at a table of brotherhood.”

His dream continued with the hope and faith that we would one day “be able to hew out of the mountain of despair a stone of hope. With this faith, we would be able to transform the jangling discords of our nation into a beautiful symphony of brotherhood. With this faith, we would be able to work together, to pray together, to struggle together, to go to jail together, to stand up for freedom together, knowing that we will be free one day.”

He dream to this day challenges us for “Now is the time to lift our nation from the quicksand of racial injustice to the solid rock of brotherhood. Now is the time to make justice a reality for all of God’s children. Let freedom ring. And when this happens, and when we allow freedom ring—when we let it ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able to speed up that day when all of God’s children—black men and white men, and Protestants and Catholics will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual: “Free at last! Free at last! Thank God Almighty, we are free at last!”

As Barack Obama takes the oath of office this Tuesday as our 44th US President, Martin Luther King’s dream along with his hope and faith in all of us lives on. He must be smiling down on us from the heavens above today; 46 years later his dreams are finally being realized.

Remember … touch a life today “The Little Way” by following the lead and need of others. Also, if you ever thought to yourself, “I wish my customers, knew…”, then be sure to visit White Light Communications at

~ Theresa

Tranforming Toxic Thoughts….

Have you ever started a day not feeling quite right? Without knowing how it happened or why, your thoughts turn towards the negative no matter how hard you try not to? What’s more, you knew if you did not get out of this thought pattern, your whole day would be ruined? Sandra Ingerman says such “toxic thoughts” can electrify the atmosphere of any room you enter. In her article, “10 Ways to Transform Toxic Thoughts,” on, Sandra cites ten ways to rid yourself of such thoughts:

1. Breathe through your heart. Placing your hands on your heart and feeling your heart moving as you breathe has a calming effect.
2. Look in the mirror. Before reacting to a challenging situation, take a look in the mirror and watch your reflection as you emote. No one wants to see themself act out in a toxic way.
3. Express, don’t send. It’s OK to have negative emotions. What’s more, it’s important to acknowledge your feelings – verbally or on paper. Just be careful not to send those negative feelings to yourself, to others, or to the world.
4. Think of a favorite face. Think of a loved one and impose his or her image on the face of the person challenging you. The energy behind your emotions goes to all living beings.
5. Watch your words. Like thoughts and emotions, your words have the power to change your experience as well as the world in which we live. Fill your mind with positive words and pay attention to how your life unfolds.
6. See the divinity in others. We all come from the same place. Seeing people in their divine light gives them the strength they need to deal with their troubles. Remember … perception creates your reality.
7. Connect with nature. Nature is known to be a great healer. Take time out and connect with the natural world whenever you can.
8. Work with water. Water is known for its healing effects and can wash away your pain. Whether washing your hands, taking a shower, or standing in the rain, visualize yourself washing negative energy away.
9. Protect yourself with light. Imagine a protective white light surrounding you. This will protect you from any harmful energies being sent your way.
10. Respond with love. Respond to the negative energy you do not wish to receive with love. This will not only prevent you from moving into an attack position, but will also create more negative energy. Love heals.

My three personal favorites are breathing through your heart; working with water; and seeing divinity in others. The others naturally follow.

Remember … touch a life today “The Little Way” by following the lead and need of others. Also, if you ever thought to yourself, “I wish my customers, knew…”, then be sure to visit White Light Communications at

~ Theresa

Finding your joy

In a society where we all want to fit in, we often struggle to find our own identity; that feeling of contentment when we are completely comfortable with who we are and our uniqueness. In a devotional message written on her website, Joyce Meyer writes about finding your destiny. As she so eloquently pointed out, our true purpose in life is found in using and sharing our natural skills and unique talents with others.

Unsure about your purpose? Joyce Meyer suggests thinking about what you do well; skills you perform with ease with little or no formal training. What’s more, think about the skills you derive great pleasure from when you perform them. Fulfillment of your life purpose is confirmed in the form of blessings or rewards you realize when pursuing those endeavors.

Just as important? Don’t spend all your time trying to do something you do not do well; it’ll make your life miserable. For example: if you tried sewing, managing finances on your own, or doing home-related projects requiring hand tools only to discover you are not good at doing any of those things, then save those talents for someone who loves to do them and knows how to do them well.

So take time out from your day, take a good look at what you enjoy, what you do well, and what our Creator is giving you grace to do. Next, accept our Creator in your life. Allow His presence to flow freely through you, taking care to realize that how He flows through you may not be the same as how He flows through others. Finally… have faith in Him; trust His ability to work in and through you, and don’t be afraid to be unique!

Remember … touch a life today “The Little Way” by following the lead and need of others. Also, if you ever thought to yourself, “I wish my customers, knew…”, then be sure to visit White Light Communications at

~ Theresa

Inspiration often comes when you least expect it

The other night I was truly inspired when I heard of Daniel Seddiqui’s story on ABC World News Tonight. So much so I was compelled to share it with you all.

After graduating with an economics degree from the University of Southern California in 2005, this young man struggled to find work. Like many recent college graduates, he sent out countless resumes; in his case, in search of a position in finance. After sending out over 40 job application, he didn’t get a single offer. The reason? No experience.

For three years, the 26 year old from Los Altos, Calif. worked temporary jobs to pay his bills; everything from a Home Depot clerk and elementary school tutor to a cross-country volunteer coach at Northwestern University. Realizing he had to get creative and step outside the box to find a meaningful career path, Seddiqui set out to explore a variety of career options. His answer: craft a plan where he would drive cross-country and work 50 different jobs in 50 states in 50 weeks. That’s one sure fire way of building one’s resume power!

Lining up most of the jobs in advance, Seddiqui found places to stay on the road. He kicked off his tour in Salt Lake City in September 2008, where he worked at the Humanitarian Center for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. From there, he worked as a hydrologist in Colorado then performed as a rodeo announcer in South Dakota. To Seddiqui’s surprise, employers were receptive to his experiment. In fact, some paid him quite handsomely. For example, he made $2000 in one week working at a medical device manufacturer in Minnesota.

There were other rewards beyond financial ones too. He’s seen sights he would not have otherwise seen, making the whole journey worthwhile. Documenting his journey on his blog,, Seddiqui wrote, “When you see a 200-foot tree slowly breaking down between other enormous trees and shake the earth, it would take your breath away.”

What’s especially intriguing is this young man accepts assignments without any knowledge of what he’s going to do until he actually does it on his first day on the job. Lack of knowledge or experience hasn’t slowed him down. Whether it’s a wedding business, marine biology, or archaeology, all skills have been learned on the job. What’s more, ten of his first 12 employers were so happy with him that they offered him a full-time job!

Still lined up are jobs as an amusement park supervisor in Florida, a surf instructor in Hawaii, and a model in North Carolina.

So what will he do once he has completed all 50 jobs?

“Who knows!” Seddiqui said. “ I’ve opened up so many opportunities for myself. And four months ago I had zero opportunities. And now I have endless, countless. I am hopefully going to get 50 jobs of experience, so no one can turn me down!”

In recent months, many of us have fallen on tough financial times. A good many of us – myself included – have played victim for a time, hoping circumstances change on their own, or at the very least, finding others who are willing to commiserate with us. Then a bright light comes out from all the darkness. Daniel Seddiqui is one such bright light. He inspires us to pick ourselves up, to dust ourselves off,and to move forward with our lives in spite the challenges placed before us.

Thank you, Daniel Seddiqui! You are living proof that opportunity still exists. Sometimes you just have to go beyond your comfort zone to find it.

Choosing a Path

What is so remarkable about life is that we’ve been given a free will in which to choose our path. We can take a short cut and risk its consequences or take the long way around to enjoy the scenery. We can rush through everything and wind up missing opportunities, or take our time and pay attention to every little detail. We can choose a path others before us have followed, or take the road less taken. Regardless of the path we take, it’s our choice to make.

Robert Frost spoke of the value in taking the road less traveled in his poem, The Road Less Taken:


Two roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth

Then took the other as just as fair
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet, knowing how way leads onto way
I doubted if I should ever come back

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence
Two roads diverged in a wood
And I took the one less traveled by
And that has made all the difference

~Robert Frost

Whatever path you ultimately choose, travel it “The Little Way.” It could make all the difference.

Remember … touch a life today “The Little Way” by following the lead and need of others. Also, if you ever thought to yourself, “I wish my customers, knew…”, then be sure to visit White Light Communications at

~ Theresa