Monthly Archives: July 2009

The greatest poverty…

“We think sometimes that poverty is only being hungry, naked, and homeless. The poverty of being unwanted, unloved, and uncared for is the greatest poverty. “
~ Mother Teresa

Last week I had the unique privilege of serving as an alternate juror and it changed my life forever. Barely 16, the plaintiff experienced more poverty in her young life than many ever experience in a lifetime; not only the poverty of homelessness, but the poverty of being unwanted and unloved too. At age five, Jessica was taken away from her biological family due to neglect. After being placed in a series of foster homes, she was eventually adopted by a family who knew her as Amber. As she grew, so too did the violence in her life. No longer able to cope with violence at home, not knowing where she fit in, and not knowing who to trust or where to go, Jessica-Amber sought refuge “on the streets.” In befriending an emergency service worker and his family she thought for a time she had found a safe haven. It was then, however, she found herself in a compromising situation. She became sexually intimate with the defendant – the adult son of the emergency service worker. While the law says she was legally unable to consent to the act by virtue of her age, Jessica-Amber nevertheless developed feelings for the young man who “saved” her even though he never developed any feelings for her. In the aftermath of the liaison and with allegations mounting against the defendant, she was left confused. Not only did she equate the physical act of intimacy she shared with him with love, but she also felt victimized when his family denied ever giving her shelter and as he denied ever sharing physical intimacies with her.

As I sat in the jury box listening to her story unfold, Jessica-Amber touched my heart in a profound way. In hearing her story, I felt as though I knew her. I empathized with her and her vulnerability; a vulnerability so painful that in the past I found myself alternating between suppressing it and lashing out. In “meeting” her, I had to face that vulnerability and in so doing, I felt connected to her as a mother would to her child.

The trial is over and yet in its aftermath her story continues to resonate within my soul. While I fulfilled my role as an alternate juror, my heart aches with all the details of her story; a story that could also be the story of countless others. And while every story, including this one, has a conclusion, I was not witness to it. As an alternate juror, I had become privy to all the details and yet I was asked to leave just as the jury was about to deliberate. I have been given all this knowledge, yet no venue in which to use or share it. Further, I have been asked to place her fate in the hands of someone greater than myself and to have faith in justice being served.

We all meet people who come into our lives for varying amounts of time ranging from a brief encounter to a lifetime. All influencing us, not only on how we view and interact with the world around us; but also on how we see and feel about ourselves. Jessica-Amber, you were only in my life for three days, but in that time you became so precious to me that you changed my life forever. I want you to know your life and your story have purpose. I lay awake at night crying out to you, hoping you found a safe home to go to after the trial. You deserve that. My heart aches as I wonder whether anyone in the world loves you the way I love you from afar. You deserve that too. Your story makes me want to reach out to all the Jessica-Ambers of the world to tell each and every one of you, “Baby girl, you are not alone. Be strong, stay the course, and never ever run away when you get scared because I am with you always. You are in my thoughts, my heart, and my prayers. It is in those prayers, I ask our Heavenly Father to place a very special person in your life so they can show you what I have been shown…what love truly looks and feels like. Love feels so incredibly beautiful with its unwavering acceptance. Its warmth embraces you with its brilliant white light and provides a life filled with promises and possibilities. It’s unconditional and the ultimate safe haven. It not only fills your heart with joy, but it expands it so you can embrace everyone who enters your life; the same way you entered mine. It is with this love that I embrace you now and long for the day I can welcome you home!”

Remember … touch a life today “The Little Way” by following the lead and need of others.  Also, if you ever thought to yourself, “I wish my customers, knew…”, then be sure to visit White Light Communications at

~ Theresa

Feeling indebted?

Like many today, I find myself burdened with financial worries for the first time due to the current economic crisis. Whether you are a first-timer, or have always struggled with money, no one fully appreciates how heavy a burden personal debt is until you carry it. Further, it does not matter how you got there, debt often leads to despair.

Making a conscious decision not to let this despair eat away at me, I found myself over the last few weeks reaching out to everything and everyone in an effort to find relief, if not financially, at the very least physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Then this morning I felt as though God was starting to answer my prayer. A bit of relief came in the form of a genuinely compassionate article found on BeliefNet. Entitled, “Coping with Debt and Despair” (, the author, Deborah Price offers the following tips in making peace with your debt and despair.

  1. Know you are not your debt
  2. Forgive yourself and release the past
  3. Incorporate stress management techniques into your daily life
  4. Understand your spending patterns
  5. Develop a payback plan
  6. Reach out to a debt counselor
  7. Know when to seek emotional counseling
  8. Seek advise from an attorney, if needed
  9. Practice gratitude
  10. Pray for debt solutions and peace

After reading the article, I cried for relief came in the form of hope. I now pay forward this hope unto you in the form of a prayer Deborah Price included with her article:

Dear God,
Please help me to heal my relationship with money and to be released from the bondage of debt. Help me to know I am not my debt or my financial circumstances. Help me to know that regardless of my circumstances my life has meaning and value. Help me to be kind to myself and to use my indebtedness as an opportunity to heal and to be closer to your infinite wisdom. Give me strength, courage, and wisdom to guide me towards the right action. Surround my life with your constant love, light, and protection so I may know I am never alone. Thank you for ALL you have given me and continue to give me. For this, and so much more, my life is truly blessed and I am eternally grateful. I surrender ALL I am to you with faith and trust, knowing all will be resolved with time. And so it is, I say Amen.

Remember … touch a life today “The Little Way” by following the lead and need of others.  Also, if you ever thought to yourself, “I wish my customers, knew…”, then be sure to visit White Light Communications at

~ Theresa

Do You Consider Yourself Overqualified?

This evening on LinkedIn there was a thread on the Job Angels Group discussing “What’s your view on accepting a position for which you or an applicant are overqualified?” As you can imagine, there was a full range of views from “take it” to “not on your life” along with everything in between.

For a long time I shared the views of many posters; that somehow because of my age and experience I was “overqualified” to perform certain forms of work. That somehow I considered myself better than the individual who was willing to accept such a job. Then life has a way of changing everything. It varies from person to person. For me, the catalyst for change was the dying process of a loved one; seeing, feeling, and knowing my Mom relied on others for even the most basic of needs… from eating and dressing to bathing and toileting. It is then I learned I was not too good to care for and clean after anyone; especially someone who once cared for and cleaned up after me! It is then I learned that every experience in life may be viewed as an opportunity or a challenge. It’s all in how you choose to view it.

Today I would graciously accept whatever position I am offered as every position in life has value. Upon accepting the position, I would then perform whatever I am asked with great love for my life would then have purpose. As I go about my new job, I would then learn as much I can from even the simplest of tasks as I am humble enough to realize that I am not “overqualified” to learn. Afterward, I would share my experience and knowledge with others so everyone benefits.

The secret to making it in life… good economy or bad… is to keep an open mind. It starts by surrendering yourself to the realization that no one is “overqualified” to learn. It continues by being very thankful for every opportunity presented to you, however small. You soon discover that a whole host of unexpected opportunities follow. Most of all, you are truly humbled by having made a real difference; not only to the company you worked for, but in the lives of every person you touched along the way.

Remember … touch a life today “The Little Way” by following the lead and need of others.  Also, if you ever thought to yourself, “I wish my customers, knew…”, then be sure to visit White Light Communications at

~ Theresa

Affirming Loving Words

Many of us go through much of our life doubting our capabilities and self-worth. So much so that we wonder why nothing ever works out as planned no matter how hard we try. Then one day, we wake up and start to take a hard look at our selves only to discover what others has seen and felt in us for quite awhile. We lack self-confidence that comes from truly loving who we are.

It is with these thoughts I started my day in search of guidance and inspiration. Whether found in reflection, prayer, or inspiring words from others, I make it a point to start my day on a positive note by seeking out inspiration. This morning I opened up BeliefNet’s newsletter and found their article, “How to Start A Self-Esteem File” by Therese Borchard particularly inspiring.

Isn’t it funny how if we really pay attention to our surroundings, something around us provides a much-needed answer to what we seek? Evidently destined to be inspired by yet another Therese, this one offers the following 10 steps for setting up a repository for affirming love. They are:

  • Step 1: Identify 10 strengths in yourself
  • Step 2: Identify 4 people who can list your strengths
  • Step 3: Make 4 friends
  • Step 4: Ask your friends to make the list
  • Step 5: Buy a folder and label it “Self-Esteem Folder”
  • Step 6: Start collecting letters of affirmation
  • Step 7: Find more friends
  • Step 8: Propose an affirmation exchange
  • Step 9: Continue to collect affirmations
  • Step 10: Read it!

The author states this process has been a gift. First given by her therapist as an assigment, she now passes it along to others. She says that as you watch your self-esteem grow, you may soon discover an unexpected reward… knowledge that you may not need the file as much as you thought you did. In seeking out positive affirmations, you discover your self-esteem … a precious gift each of us receives upon birth… was there all along. All you had to do was find it!
For the entire article, go to

Remember … touch a life today “The Little Way” by following the lead and need of others.  Also, if you ever thought to yourself, “I wish my customers, knew…”, then be sure to visit White Light Communications at

~ Theresa